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I Might Draw Criticism, But… February 19, 2010

Filed under: Laughable,Personal,Political — shoeshe @ 2:41 pm

Has anyone read this? It’s about an actress, Andrea Fay Friedman, who has Down Syndrome. She played a small role in an episode of “Family Guy,” in which her character also had Down Syndrome.

One of her lines was, “I am the daughter of the former governor of Alaska.”

The actress says her parents raised her to be funny and “normal,” and that it was just sarcasm. The Palin clan, on the other hand, has called the “Family Guy” camp “heartless jerks” and “cruel, cold-hearted people.”

The thing is…when you put yourself out there for all the world to see, you open yourself to all that comes along with that. I think there’s a thin line between mockery, truth and flattery. While the “Family Guy” episode wasn’t the least bit flattering to the Palins, it did hold a bit of truth within its mockery.

DISCLAIMER: If you like Sarah Palin, you might want to stop reading.

Sarah Palin carts Trig around like he is some sort of special case…like she can win votes/admiration from people because she is raising a son with Down Syndrome. It is certainly something to deal with, but it is a something that thousands of other families deal with too…and you don’t see them using their child or their circumstances to win votes/admiration. It borders on exploitation, really.

And the Palin clan can argue all they want about how cold and heartless the “Family Guy” camp was, but the fact is an actress WITH Down Syndrome played the character and thought it was funny. I think it takes a strong person to face adversity with humor, and that is exactly what Friedman (and her family) have chosen to do. I’d say humor worked for this particular family, as Friedman works at a law firm when she’s not acting.

Such is life. We all have to make choices, and we all make choices that other people wouldn’t. There are things I do that you wouldn’t…just as there are things you do that I wouldn’t. It was Friedman’s choice to play the role of a girl with Down Syndrome on an episode of “Family Guy,” just as it is Palin’s choice to cart Trig around like the token Down Syndrome child talking about unfairness and hate. To be honest, I’m surprised Palin knew anything about the “Family Guy” episode since she has such a hard time coming up with any newspapers and magazines she reads on a daily basis. It seems like she’s a media snob. Perhaps if Palin watched anything but Fox (Ooh…jab at the righties), she wouldn’t have known about it at all.

Does anyone else find it somewhat humorous that Fox is the only mainstream media outlet that is so obviously right-wing…and yet “Family Guy,” which pokes fun at all sorts of right-wingers (and their ideas) is broadcast by Fox?

One more thing…I applaud Friedman for her courage and perseverance. She is a champion for folks with Down Syndrome. She has taken adversity and laughed in its face!


Randummie February 3, 2010

Filed under: Personal,Political,Spiritual,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 12:42 pm

Yeah, that’s a smash-up of two words…”random” and “dummie…” just in case you wondered.

Here’s the thing. I haven’t had anything happen in the last couple of weeks that would make incredibly good blog fodder, so I’m just going to list a few random things that cause all the gray matter in this dummie’s brain to go into over-drive.

  • I do not like it when fellow motorists pull out in front of me only to go slower than I was going…thereby forcing me to use my brakes when I wouldn’t have needed them. This feeling is multiplied many times over when I look in my rearview mirror and realize that there is nothing behind me…meaning the fellow motorist could pull out after me and all would be well.
  • I love making pizza. I’ve really gotten good at a yummy pesto sauce that I put on a thin crust with tomatoes and a few favorite cheeses.
  • I do not like it when people don’t cooperate. Really, I consider myself to be quite flexible when dealing with other people, so it just irks me when others don’t act accordingly.
  • I rarely arrive anywhere on time. I am habitually late to work. I am nearly always late for church (and I teach Sunday School, so it is probably not so appropriate). I never arrive on time for doctors’ appointments (but I don’t feel so bad about that since I nearly always have to wait anyway). I was multiple hours late for my best friend’s wedding (not the actual wedding, it was preparations and rehearsal, but still…it was bad). I have yet to celebrate Christmas with another friend. I can’t really think of anything I’ve been on time for lately…except Black Friday shopping. That’s sad. I will try to do better.
  • I am seeing a chiropractor for the first time in my life, because I am determined to kick this pesky pain in my neck/shoulders that has been bothering me for over a year.
  • Lately I’ve been tired and cranky until about noon each day. I’m wondering if it’s the new dosage of meds, because I’m not generally a tired and cranky kind of girl.
  • I have found some great friends lately, and for that I’m thankful. We even discuss things that are out-of-bounds in most other relationships. It’s an eclectic group: the middle-aged married father from England (oh, yeah…his accent is great); the doctor/actress wannabe who is 25 and has never been kissed; the legal assistant who used to be on all sorts of crazy drugs, found redemption and is using her “story” to help others; the stereotypical gay musician (who is totally kick-ass with advice); the 21-year old poster-girl for purity (she doesn’t use foul language, hasn’t ever kissed, and well…she’s obviously still a virgin) who still likes to have a good time; then there’s me. Where do I fit into this mix?
  • I don’t usually talk about religion and/or politics with certain crowds of people, but I’ve found myself more expressive in the last week or so. For the record, I don’t have a problem with people helping other people in times of disaster. In fact, I applaud their efforts. I give to their efforts. Let me be clear, there’s a difference in people trying to help and people trying to take over. Groups like UMCOR, UNICEF and the Red Cross are great. They help those who need help with sustainable water, food, shelter, clothing and general infrastructure. I’m sure there are other groups out there who do great things (maybe World Vision, Compassion International, etc. are examples of those). But then there are renegade churches who go and do stupid things. I am so glad I belong to a connectional church with a systematic and methodical approach to helping the least and lost. [pure opinion ahead…beware] I find it bizarre that a church would feel the need to send solar Bibles to Haiti when Haitians need food, clean water, shelter, etc. I would think that you meet their human needs before you begin evangelizing. Also, the Baptists from America, who are in a Haitian jail for child trafficking, should be in jail. I have no doubts that they were trying to “help.” But taking children who are not yours is wrong. You can’t just bring all the poor kids in the world to America for us to “fix.” I have to stop here. I feel a rage coming.

That’s all.


Hero Day November 8, 2009

Filed under: Personal,Political,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 12:59 am

So today at my alma mater’s football game, we celebrated Hero Day…a chance to thank members of the Army who will be shipping out on Tuesday to serve our country in Iraq.


You would have thought the football team was running onto the field to see and hear the cheering fans showing their support as the brave men and women entered the field.


Then our football came out and immediately embraced the service men and women in the endzone. It was quite moving to see such a display of gratitude and respect.


Of course I’m sad to report that we lost the game today. But for that five minutes we spent honoring our troops, we were all winners.


Utter Randomness…and then some July 27, 2009

Filed under: Laughable,Personal,Political,Spiritual,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 11:58 am

1. I have not abandoned ShoeShe. I’ve just been really busy at work and haven’t had a lot of time that I wanted to spend on a computer while at home.

2. I have started a new blog…My First Rodeo, and am having a blast taking on this new endeavor that sort of has a point. You can feel free to check it out, leave comments, or don’t. It is really more for my benefit than anything else. I want to prove that I can do something new every day (or at least 3-5 days per week).

3. Medical Update – I went back to my neurologist today, and I apparently have bone spurs on my cervical spine. I’ve been referred to a pain management specialist for some sort of injection. Ouch! Anyway…the double vision is still gone (but the doctors are baffled as to why/how…especially since my vision tests the same as it did while I had the double vision). The headaches are sporadic at this point. I have a pretty bad headache about once every week or two…but nothing like before. One of my doctors said that it is possible that the double vision was due to the severity and frequency of the headaches. Once the headaches were eliminated (at least mostly), I’m able to focus more easily and with less effort, thus minimizing the double vision. My jaw is doing much better, though is still hurting around the jawline on both sides and by the condyle on the left side. I see my TMJ specialist tomorrow to get my splints readjusted (a monthly process…which has turned into an every three weeks process for me and my “special” case). I love my TMJ specialist. He’s friendly, his office staff is friendly and his furniture is hilarious. Plus he really knows his stuff! I like that part the most!!!

4. I wonder if asking a child if he is dumb is the same thing as calling him dumb…either way I feel horribly about doing so, but you’d just have to see this kid in action. I swear he’ll wind up in prison someday. He’s just awful!!! And, when you tell his mother some of the things he does (while in Sunday School), she just says, “boys will be boys.” That’s when I want to snap and say…”No, mam…brats will be brats…so long as their parents allow them to be brats! You can teach your son to be polite and respectful of adults.” But I always just give up. It turns out that this “blessed little boy” treats his mother as badly ALWAYS (if not worse) than he treats me every Sunday. I feel for her, but I mostly loathe her for not teaching her son how to behave (especially in church). It should not be my place as a Sunday School teacher to be a disciplinarian…for reasons other than the fact that I’m terrible at it.

5. Insurance companies and medical billing procedures suck!!! I’m in the midst of a battle over some services that occurred in 2007…why they just now surfaced is further proof that something needs to be done about those procedures. I am adamantly opposed to Obama’s healthcare plan, because I think it opens a can of worms that needs to remain tightly sealed. While I think that we are in desperate need of healthcare reform, I don’t think the current plan on the table is the right solution. It could be what loses Obama his second term. The people that his plan would help could care less. They are already receiving free or greatly reduced healthcare services in overcrowded ERs. Those people won’t stop going to ERs either, because that’s how they’ve been trained. Nobody taught them to have a proper family physician to see for that pesky earache or low-grade fever. Nope. Their parents lugged them to the ER for every such occurrence as children. I suppose society is partly to blame. It is a bit of a never-ending cycle. And while Obama’s plan might help a few, I fear it would hurt the rest of us. Once employers no longer “have to” provide medical insurance for their employees, customer service will be at an all-time low. It is already hard enough to get answers from private insurance companies. Picture this: the government is in charge of answering those same questions. I don’t think we would ever be able to peel back enough of the red tape to get our questions answered. As for medical services, I also fear the worst! Picture this: my grandfather who has twice beaten the odds against cancer wouldn’t have even been given a chance to beat those odds, because the government says a full cure is unlikely, and thus leaves him to die. That’s not a world in which I want to live. While we can dream of a happy society where we have 100% national healthcare, the fact of the matter is that our society has not been trained to think that way. It could never work. Do you really want your grandmother’s cardiologist to be making $60,000 a year as a government-paid doctor? Heavens no! I like that my grandmother’s cardiologist makes almost 4 time that amount. Why? Because I can expect more. I could go on and on, but I’ll spare you my other concerns.

6. I’ve become quite good at cooking. I get to practice almost nightly, and I love it! It is so much fun…and it provides me with an outlet for my creativity. I realize that some of you remember my not-so-good-at-cooking days from college. Let me assure you that I haven’t tried to make any Death Chicken or Chocolate Stuff in years…nor will I ever!

7. My 10 year reunion is in October. I graduated from high school in 1999. Some days it seems like forever ago, and other days it feels like it was just yesterday. Why is that? I didn’t keep in touch with hardly any of my classmates…even the ones who were my best friends, but have since become their “friends” on Facebook. That seems odd to me. I don’t talk to you in 7-8 years, then all of a sudden we’re besties on Facebook…that’s weird! I feel badly about not keeping in touch with some of my friends, but at the same time in the back of my mind I remember that most of my teenage years were not fun for me. When I was in 7th grade, I paid two girls on my basketball team to be nice to me. It seems so pathetic now…it was even more pathetic back then. They made fun of me all the time, but if I gave them gum or money they laid off for a day or two. What was I thinking? Why didn’t I tell an adult? Why didn’t I talk to someone about how it made me feel instead of keeping it all inside? In 11th grade I went to a residential school for really advanced (and mostly socially awkward kids) to avoid the teen angst I was experiencing. When I moved back to my school (because I hated being with all those socially awkward kids…I am not socially awkward – and never really was) later that same year, I discovered that I had lost all but one of my friends. It sucked. All my other friends had moved on to drinking and mild drug use…or to the “popular crowd.” I did not. And while I don’t regret not ever drinking or experimenting with any drugs while I was in high school, I wonder what my life might have been like had I experienced some of the normal teen behavior. Would I have made new friends? Would I have stressed less over perfect grades? I guess it is weird that I even think these things. Oh well.

8. I didn’t have my first drink until my 21st birthday (in Chicago on a Model UN trip with Mrs. Huckablog). Later that year, I got wasted on two wine coolers on a different Model UN trip. I loved Model UN. In hindsight, it probably wasn’t a good idea to drink alcohol while taking heart medication. I am now off all my heart medication, and I love mojitos!!! They are my alcoholic beverage of choice these days.

9. I saw Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince on Saturday. Parts of it were nothing like my expectations from the book, but other parts were exactly as I envisioned them. It was well-done. I was impressed. And for all the book purists, I think you have to separate the book series from the movie series to get a full appreciation for the movies. Otherwise, you sort of get hung up on the things they leave out of the movies. Don’t you realize that if they made the book into a movie with all the details, the movie would be an 8-hour movie? My favorite book (and movie) in the series remains Goblet of Fire.

10. I haven’t read any of the Twilight books yet. I’m not sure why. But if it is any consolation, I didn’t read any of the Harry Potter books until 3 years ago, and I now love them. I guess it takes me a while to get on the pop culture bandwagon.


Waiting on the World to Change May 4, 2009

Filed under: Personal,Political,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 6:48 pm

I can be better. I can do better. I can do more than “can.” I will be better. I will do better. See, can implies the ability to decide whether or not you actually “will do” something. But will is confirmation that you actually are going to do something. That’s why I prefer “I will” to “I do” in weddings. “I do” says yes for a moment…”yeah, right now I’m yours, but in a few years I’m not sure.” It is for the here and now. “I will” on the other hand says “I’m yours forever.” It is for the here and now, but also for the future.


Here’s the deal…I’m no tree hugger (though I’m pretty sure my little brother may be one), but I do love the world in which I live. And, as a Christian, I feel a need to be a good steward of the earth God provides.


So, I know it’s not earth day…or earth week anymore. But I’m pledging to do better. I will do better.


Here are some areas in which I could improve…

  • Over-use of toilet paper (I use more toilet paper than the law should allow…I also NEVER buy the recycled kind.)
  • Aerosol hairspray (I am totally a slave to my Big Sexy Hair products…I use at least 4 of their products daily…and sometimes more.)
  • Limitless energy use (I seriously leave my television on all night while I sleep…and I rarely turn off lights when I leave a room…or a house.)


So, I’m starting with the energy use. I will do better. I will start turning off my television when I go to bed. Perhaps I’ll even sleep better (I’ve been told that is probable). I will also start turning off lights when I exit a room. For now…those are my commitments.


Why? Well, I feel a bit guilty. See, I’m not quite as earth-friendly as Mr. Gore (the ex-vice president)…nor do I think I really need to be. But I did watch Disney’s Earth this weekend, and I really felt sorry for the poor polar bears…and some of the other animals, and I’m not going to sit and wait on the world to change. I should be the change I wish to see in the world. And…I just love this song…



A Day Without Shoes April 16, 2009

Filed under: Personal,Political,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 3:53 pm

It should come as no surprise to many of you that I go without my shoes as often as possible…basically I walk around sock-footed or barefoot most of the time while at work, home, at other peoples’ houses, at church…you name it!

But today, I am barefoot for a different reason!




9-1-1…What’s Your Emergency? March 4, 2009

Filed under: Laughable,Political,Uncategorized — shoeshe @ 10:52 am

This is hilarious and sad all at the same time.



How bad is it in America when people think they have a “right” to call 9-1-1 because they can’t get chicken nuggets?